There exists within each of us certain fears that hang above our heads like black clouds, threatening to pour rain down upon us at any moment. The more we believe in these fears the larger they grow, until the threat spreads beyond our control; to other people who are passing by who cannot escape the rain when it pours. Some fears float out in front of us, looming in the distance, a storm cloud rolling in, while others fade into the blue skies behind us, and we’ve seen their demise.
Fear is a funny thing. No matter how often we confront our fears, it's like we instantly manage to find a new one. When the clouds clear up and the sun shines through, we find another cloud to take it’s place. And that is the human condition. It is the desire to find fear and face it that makes us unique. It is our undying affection for challenge and rebirth that makes us interesting.
We shelter ourselves with umbrellas and hats and rain coats so that we cannot feel the sting of the rain, but the rain is rarely as bad as one thinks it will be. It can be unpleasant and cold and lonely, but it lets you know you are alive.
Just the same with fear: when we let it touch us, when we do not run away, it has no more power. The more we ignore it or shield ourselves from it, the larger it grows, an ever-present entity in your heart. But when it is unleashed, and we feel it’s full effects, we know it for what it is. We call it by name and look it in the face. We understand what our fear has to say, and we respond in kind. We laugh in the face of danger when we confront our fears.
DO SOMETHING THAT REQUIRES BRAVERY EVERY SINGLE DAY.
That was the thought I had the other day that changed everything for me. I no longer felt bound by life’s rules. I simply wanted to be brave, to do something that scared me, and to face that thing head on. When we do something that takes courage, we diminish fear. It will never leave our side completely, for if it does we know we are complacent, unchanging, and stagnant. But that cloud will grow smaller, as I have watched mine for the last few years, until it is a friend, a companion, waiting to challenge you.
Don’t let your storm cloud grow so large it changes the lives of others. And just as importantly, don’t let it cast a shadow over your life. Take control of it. Embrace it. Learn to see the good in it. And when you do, you might find that it has moved on without unleashing the storm you were expecting. Because when we love our fears, we make room for blue sky days.
SHARE HERE A FEAR THAT YOU ARE CURRENTLY STRUGGLING WITH.
SHARE ONE WAY THAT YOU EXHIBITED BRAVERY IN THE LAST MONTH.
My current fear: leaving home, properly, for the first time to go to India for the year.
Moment of bravery: saying goodbye to some of the people who've helped shape my life in ways they can barely imagine.